How to Deal with Heartbreak

Somehow I feel my life is an experiment. I go through it, and share my lessons and discoveries. While some are pleasant, others aren't. As usual, I write from my heart. . .

How to Deal with Heartbreak

Are you heart broken? I know what's going on in your life right now, the feeling of emptiness, pain, anger and depression. You feel that you've lost someone who you thought was the best and the most special. (like in my case, the person was magical). You are not alone.

I was in a beautiful relationship with a man I loved like I'd never loved any other. But yes, like most relationships, the end was painful.

Dealing with a heart break is not that easy as it sounds. But I hope these tips help you just as they've helped me too. . .

1. Don't be afraid to cry: Going through a break-up can be really tough, and getting some of those raw emotions out can go a long way. It's OK to cry. I'm an advocate for tears. I believe it's a blessing to be able to cry. Just find a place where you can be alone, and cry. I cry into my pillow. Cry it all out because that is a healing process on its own.

2. Stop blaming yourself: If you were not guilty, I mean, if you gave it  your best shot but it still didn't work out, then it was never meant to be. If it was good enough for you, it would never have ended anyway. So brace up. Stop wishing you did or gave something more. You definitely deserve someone better.

3. Go through the experience: Life has a way of making us stronger and helping us overcome similar situations. Heartbreaks are just that experience, it will make you stronger. During heartbreak, some people try to avoid the pain and hurt themselves (that's the sad part). But you can go through it, use it positively and let it inspire you. It will do you more good if you chose to learn from it. If you don't, then no one can help you.

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4. Get Busy: Getting busy worked a whole lot for me. I stopped worrying about the lost love and got my mind occupied with more writing and oral activities. If you were busy while in the relationship like I was, then it's time to get busier. Get up and do the things you like to do. Your relationship took a lot - emotionally, financially, physically, and most importantly, time invested into it. I'd like to think you sacrificed something. So now, just do all the things that you wanted to do for yourself and make up for the time. Channel your energy to creative and self-improving activities.

5. Love yourself: Heart break shouldn't stop you from loving yourself. I always preach self-love and it does not mean to be selfish. It means to pamper yourself, to make time for yourself, to look into the mirror and feel awesome. For real, you have to love yourself first before someone else does. Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can't think of any because your broken heart is beclouding you, get your friends to remind you. You can also listen to A Letter I wrote to Myself.

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Here's the thing, Jerry broke up with me over text.

What can be more painful than that?! We had the most amazing relationship ever. (have a glimpse of the relationship here). But what isn't meant to be, isn't meant to be.

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5. Pray: The last but not the least, ask God to heal your broken heart. The Bible says in Psalms 34:18, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those that are crushed in the spirit." Ask God for strength and healing, He will give you the courage to go through this. God is very nice. Hopefully, I will share some things that happened when I decided to let God heal my broken heart next week. :)

So dearest Sweetheart, I know it's hard but you have to be patient with yourself and let the healing take place. Always remember, no one, I repeat no one in this world has the right to hurt you or make you feel inferior except you.

Move on with your life!
There's more living to do!

Have you ever been heart broken? How did you get over it? 

Written by Nwamaka Ajaegbu 
Follow on Twitter: @Amakamedia 
Email: amakamedia@yahoo.com

Heart Rays  . . .giving out the light.