Dear Diary, Can Me And Me Be Best Friends?

That moment you realize your friends are there to help you but you’re always going to be the one  who makes the hard decisions and deal with their consequences.

Being My Own Best Friend

I’ve spent years trying to win people’s approval and win their hearts. I’ve spent years trying to have as many best friends as I can whether by putting them on a pedestal, putting my life on hold and showing up for them whenever they needed me and trusting them blindly with all my darkest secrets and dreams.

I guess it was my way of proving to them that I deserve their love and their attention, that I trust them, that I put them on a pedestal because I’ve always believed that the more friends you have, the better your life will be and you’ll have the support you need when life weighs you down.

Well,  I still believe so but it's shocking to realize that there’s nothing you couldn’t face when you learn how to hold your hand, pat your back and be your own best friend. Because only you know what’s best for you, only you know how you’re feeling about that situation, only you know how to get over the pain, only you understand why you're heart is broken.

Because the shocking reality is your best friends will not be there for every interaction, every dark time or every moment you’re faced with something new or awkward or challenging. They won’t always be available to reply every text or answer every call. They won’t always be there to hear you out in the middle of the night. They don’t have a radar that tells them when you’re struggling and when they need to reach out to you.

You have good friends. They are actually the best ones ever!

But, they have their own lives, they have their own issues, they have their own problems and they might never be able to give you their undivided attention, they’ll only do the best they can and sometimes that’s not going to be good enough, the same way you probably won’t be able to give them all your time and attention either.

Our best friends make life better, they make the journey easier, they make it more delightful but you’re the only one who can make your life fascinating. You’re the only who can make yourself h-a-p-p-y.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to learn how to be your own best friend because . . . at the end of the day, all you truly have is . . . the God IN you.

"Come to me, all who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

~ Mathew 11:28-30

Written by Nwamaka Ajaegbu 

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