RELATIONSHIP: What Do You Do When Someone Lies To You?

I’d just discovered a friend lied to me. It was about something senseless, which only made it worse. As days go by, I wrestled through troubling thoughts. Why would he lie about THAT? Were we ever really friends?

It's Love-Wednesday! Let's talk.

When Your Friend Lied

I tend to totally trust people from the first minute I meet them, meaning that people can only lose my trust. This doesn't mean that anybody I get to know immediately becomes my friend; it simply means that I have no prejudice towards them about the possibility of being friends with them.

So, this article is going to cover both friends, bae's and acquaintances. What we do when we discover that people we trust lied to us?

Cut Something Out

Hello sweethearts of my blogosphere. You good? I'm in a happy and peaceful place. God has shown me mercy and given me grace. I want to extend this grace to you today.

Cut Something Out

I won't want to bore you with stories behind this article because all I want is for you to get the message.

STYLE: When You Have Practically Blogged About All Your Clothes!

Yeah! True story. You all have seen all the clothes in my wardrobe so far. I don't think there is anything in there that has not been showcased here yet. Well, just maybe.

Today I want to share with you what fashion bloggers generally go through during their blogging journey.

General Fashion Blogging Struggles

My intention is not to turn this blog into a fashion blog but to simply share my interests (tips and tricks) in fashion with you like how to repeat your clothes once every week. I have taken photos of me almost everyday with or without a point and shoot! What keeps me going is the fact that I enjoy documenting my outfits and noticing how my personal style statement evolves.

Highlights From Bishop T.D. Jakes' Session In The Spirit-Life Conference 2017

I am so drunk! This will be a weekend to remember for a looong time! God is doing things this season . . . I pray we be sensitive enough to receive what is needed for our next level.

You know I can't keep it all to myself. A sis gotta share what a sis gotta share. Aha!

Quotes By T.D Jakes At #SLC2017

If all that happened yesterday evening at the Spirit Life Conference could be the end, it would still be regarded as a successful conference considering how I was raised to my feet and thrown flat on the floor by the Spirit! I sobbed my heart out under the weight of glory!

The session tagged "Face To Face" led by the great man of God, Bishop T.D. Jakes was super explosive! God definitely has something big in store for His people.

5 Odd Things That I'm Currently Loving

70% of the time my content is planned out by a time table and I like my posts to have a general theme and message. But sometimes it's fun to just have a chat about random things. So that is exactly what I'm doing today, just sharing 5 of my most favourite things of the moment.

Things I'm Loving (Part 2)

1. Being Single

Although I am single, yet technically I always hadn't. I've always had some guy who had to play the role of a boyfriend. But lately, I'm enjoying being totally single.

A Twitter Thread That Will Make You Repent Then Heal

Sharing is caring! Telling others about posts or tweets that resonate with you is one of the easiest ways to be a blessing to the world. Not to mention that it benefits both parties involved: You update your page, you create relationships and knowledge is exposed to a wider audience.

This blessed me.

An Inspiring Thread

Like I mentioned in 'Why I Love Twitter', you can express a lot in just one Tweet. But sometimes you want to tell a developing story, resurface a related Tweet, or simply talk for more than 140 characters. When that happens, you have the Tweet threading option!

Creating a thread on Twitter is simply easy. Just follow these 3 steps (Lol. I love easy steps. See here, here and there):

Step 1: Reply to your own Tweet.

Step 2:  If your @name appears in the Tweet compose field, delete it. The reply will nest under your first Tweet automatically.

Step 3: Continue replying to the newest Tweet in your thread until your story is complete.

That's all!

I haven't created a thread that went viral yet. But I have read a few threads by others that prompted me to retweet and like. So on Tuesday, I found one that prompted me to share with you on the blog. I hope it blesses you too.

Join The Ankara And Sneakers Rockers

Happy Style-Sunday! I'm not a big fan of fashion trends. If, however, I discover how they sync with my style ingredients, I wouldn't mind giving them a go. How about you?

Ankara And Sneakers

Sneakers are one of the most versatile things to incorporate in your wardrobe. Is there anything you can't wear with them!? You can wear sneakers on a little skirt, a shirt dress, a maxi skirt with slits, and you can even wear sneakers on a wedding gown!

I love sneakers. And I love Ankara fabrics. Being able to put these together in one outfit feels almost like a dream come true. I am excited about this trend.

Dear Diary, All My Friends Are Getting Married Again

Hi Sweethearts! How was your weekend? I was eager to share about how my weekend went with you right after attending another wedding on Saturday but honestly, it's not coming out nice. I have deleted my introductory paragraphs more than twice. Here is what my draft had been like since Sunday until noon today . . .

I'm Not Married Yet

Today I'm like:

I blog blood. I blog tears. And I blog smiles.

Sometimes I wish I could write anonymously. Sometimes I wish I could tell the truth without giving myself away. Sometimes I wish I could be the blogger who only shares with the world about what she wears, what she knows, and what she has come to discover through her journey with God, without necessarily sharing what she genuinely feels in her heart. But, then, if I am that blogger who hides, maybe I wouldn't have counted the third year of being here.

Sometimes I write stuff that makes me cover my face in shame. Sometimes I write things that could make a potential suitor afraid to approach me. Sometimes I think I give myself off away too much. Sometimes I think I should stop sharing personal lessons and stories. But, then, if I do not write the words I am ashamed of, maybe the words I am proud of would never exist.

I rip my heart open and I pour out the words.

Well, this is neither a bloody, nor a teary, nor a happy entry . . .

One Thing I Like About God

When our "I love God" becomes nothing less than an expression of doing-bound services, we may need to take a look at what we mean by love.

I Like God

I checked for the word 'like' in my most favourite English dictionary, Merriam-Webster;

Like means to get pleasure from simply being with someone.

Then I checked the word 'love' in the same dictionary;

Love is a feeling of strong affection for someone. 

STYLE: 6 Things That Make You Look African (Without Ankara Fabric)

Countless numbers of people never thought they were complimenting me with reassurances when they say “you look African” or ask "are you a South African?"

In most cases, I feel even more proud when they say it when I am not wearing my most preferred "African" fabric - Ankara. It tells me looking African is beyond the fabric.

How To Look African

At a point, I was getting it twisted. I had thought looking African was only about incoporating Ankara fabric into my style, until I received the shocker that Ankara is NOT African.

Oh,well.

Reflecting a bit (or so much) of African Fashion in my outfit has been more that an exciting journey for me.

When You Find Out A Collaegue's Salary Is Higher

It's Career-Wednesday! Been a while, yeah? I know. A lot has happened in my workplace and with me on the job that I haven't been able to wrap my head around yet. It's been awesome and crazy altogether. But trust me to share the gist (struggles, lessons and blessings) with you when I get a direction.

Let's talk about salary today. Lol.

Negotiate Your Salary

You know that moment when a friend tells you that the same pair of shoes they got for N4,500, you got for N8,000? That was how I felt when I found out that a colleague whose job description is same as mine earned higher. I was angry. I felt cheated. Ouch. It still hurts. :(

DIARY: I'm So Lost Without You

“Show me the right path, O LORD; point out the road for me to follow.” Psalm 25:4 (NLT). Months ago I asked God to etch this verse onto my heart, so I’d always have it with me — especially on days when I feel like I’m going round in circles and lacking direction.

I saw me running in my dream last night. And I prayed it to mean I'm running to God. Lol. Can't risk it mehn!

I'm Running 🎵

Music is a huge part of our lives and some of our most treasured, intimate and emotional memories are instantly ignited by a song or the string of a guitar.

We identify with certain songs at different times, and those tracks change significantly with our seasons.

Before It Is Stolen Again

My friends and I at an Amplify Network hangout were discussing our testimonies and struggles when one of us mentioned being physically attacked by demons. It made me cringe.

I think we give the devil too much credit when we talk about him or refer to him at every negative incident. Can we ignore him or give him the backseat?

Not Being Ignorant Of The Devices

The devil is not a joke. I believe the devil and his demons are super real. I believe the devil and the demons are powerful. I believe the devil and his demons are evil and full of wickedness. I believe they steal, they kill, and they destroy. However, I do not believe they win every battle.

STYLE: One Unexpected Thing That Makes Your Outfit Shine

Boom, pop! Ghen-ghen! oh, wow! If those are what you want people to say when they see your final put-together outfit, then this is the shoe colour for you.

Red Shoes Popping

You know those days when it feels like you are wearing the same outfits over and over again, and it just gets a bit boring, huh? Try playing with colours!

The tip on adding that “pop” is to keep the majority of things subtle and pick one or two areas to make a bold statement. It's often the little things that make a big difference, and a pop of colour can have a HUGE impact on your outfit.

DIARY: God Wants Me To Be

That morning, I woke up feeling somehow. The somehow feeling made me sober and reflective.

My Personality

There is so much that I strongly believe God wants to do with me and through me, but I woke up feeling rather uncertain. I felt as though I was "marking time" again.