How Do I Stop Being So Indecisive?

I was late again. I was late because it was hard to choose a dress to wear. Yeah. . .yeah. I am that slow when it comes to making decisions. But when I decide to decide, there is no going back.

How Do I Stop Being So Indecisive?

You'll like me to give you a to do-list of how to stop being indecisive. Right? No way. You'll have to decide to make a list for yourself after reading this article. Lol.

I am not here to tell you that indecision is fatiguing and tiresome. And that it steals your time, drains your energy and rubs you off of some opportunities. I am here to help you take that decision already!

First things first, you will have to start by making the smaller decisions the fastest. For instance, when you want to decide on what to eat for lunch or what to wear for the day, do it very fast. Don't think too much for too long.

I remember when it took me ages to choose meals from a menu. How did I overcome that? I just started thinking, "what if I didn't get to choose, and was just given a meal from the menu like that?" I realized I would happily just eat it after all. The realization changed me. Now, I make a quick decision within 20 or 30 seconds when deciding on what to eat. You can too.

Next things next, you can now start to make the bigger decisions faster. We cannot always rush decisions on our careers and our marriages because they will require more thinking (and more praying). But fasten up the thinking (and praying) process and take a decision. Like seriously, there is no point wasting time.

Well, you may want to think you're missing out on the choice you didn't make, relax. Making no choice at all and not getting the benefit from either choice is better than wasting time. One thing is certain, there will be something to learn. 

Before I decided to quit my job, I was scared. Really scared. What happens if I fail? Will I be stuck forever? What if I don’t like it? What if I want to go back, but I can’t? What if I don’t have enough money to do. . . What if. . .?

These were some of the questions I asked myself when I went out there, rolled up my sleeves and started working on my very own project - my dream. Questions that were all highly hypothetical. Questions that I actually never really had to find an answer for.

You might also have similar questions like these:

Will she leave me? Is she the one? Is this the right job for me? Will I have to work this job for the rest of my life? Will I be able to ever feed a family and so on. . .

All of these questions, all these doubts will only eat up your energy instead of helping you. They will only slow you down. They will paralyze you. They will hinder us from taking any sort of decisions.

What decisions are afraid to take right now? It might be the decision to leave your current job. It might be the decision to stop working on a project. It might be the decision to stop smoking. It might be the decision to leave your current boy/girlfriend. It might be the decision to take a course. It might be the decision to start your own company.

Sweetheart, take the decision. Taking a decision allows us to tap into more opportunities that will make us grow and move forward in life. Taking a decision usually opens up the door to ten other opportunities that we may even have to choose from and pick the most appealing ones.

Instead of worrying about all the negative consequences of all the decisions you have to take at one point or the other in your life. You should welcome them and try not to chase them away. I'm currently learning to welcome a particular life-changing decision. (I'll tell you on Wednesday).

Always remember, good decisions are based on the dictates of conscience, commitment, principle, policy, and personal or corporate honour. If it's the right thing to do, decide to do it.

I'll never stop saying; your heart isn't only made for feelings and emotions. It is a place for decision making. Decide to become, to grow, to love, to live. Now!

Happy new week.

Written by Nwamaka Ajaegbu 

Twitter: @Amakamedia

Email: amakamedia@yahoo.com

Heart Rays . . .giving out  the light.