RELATIONSHIP: You Either Leave Them or They Leave You

2015 will be ending in two days. I believe we are all taking stock of how the year has been. Let's review our relationships too. Ask God to help you identify those relationships that are/will not be helpful to your life.

Let Go

God's been reminding me about some of the prayers I prayed in 2015, and how He's answered them. I have been on thanksgiving mode since Sunday. One of the prayers was to be surrounded by people who will lead me towards God and purpose, those who will make me proud to be a "good girl". I see His answers everywhere.

PHOTO: Describe 2015 In One Word

Look back, how would you describe your 2015?

PHOTO TALK

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                           Heart Rays . . .giving out the light.

See What I Got For Christmas :)

Hello sweeties! Hope you had a fantastic Christmas celebration. Oya gist me. :)
Exactly two weeks ago, I told you what I had on my wish list. So I think it's proper to show you what I finally got. :)

What I Got For Christmas

I googled the meaning of "Boxing Day" to be very sure I know what it means. But it appears Mr. Google is also confused. Who knows the real meaning??

OK. While I await your response. I guess Boxing Day is stated to be December 26, a day to open your Christmas gift box. Yeah? Well, I couldn't meet up to our posting time (5:59 AM) on Saturday. So I postponed it till today.

STYLE: When You Feel Like "Just there"

Yipee! It's the last Sunday of 2015. We made it. Thanks to God! I was feeling a bit like "just there" this morning. But the devil failed. How are you doing sweetheart? Hope you're feeling cool. 

You know how we do it every Sunday. Lemme show you what I Wore to church today. :)

WIW: The Last Sunday Of 2015

If I had picked up my private diary this morning, I would have written something like: "I feel so indifferent. I am neither happy nor sad. I can't explain this feeling, and I don't like it!" 

Have you ever felt that way? When you're like . . .  "just there". 

PODCAST: Merry Christmas! What Does Christmas Mean To You?

It's Christmas! Merry Christmas sweeties! Christmas is perceived to mean different things to different people based on the way it's being celebrated and the reason behind the celebration. For many people it means eating a lot and spending time with family and visiting relatives and friends. For others it often means receiving gifts, gifts and gifts!

I went on the streets to ask Nigerians what the season mean to them. Listen to what some of them said . . . 

Healthy Snacks For Your Heart

I apologize about the 'unseriousness' I displayed yesterday. Some days are just like that. Phew. Thank you for understanding. A big shout out to Sarah, Johnero, Nikemi, Ore-ofe, Jenny, Lucy & Mrs Kene for writing the concluding part of the article. You all are so amazing! Let's keep going. :)

*whispers* While it is important to take care of the spiritual state of your heart, it is also very important to take care of your heart in its physical form. You can keep your heart healthy . . . by snacking. Especially during this season. 

Healthy Snacks

I am passionate about many things, but food is not one of them. If you've been following my blog, you'd notice I hardly talk about food. (OK, except when I mentioned fufu, akara and jollof rice). I'm so not a foodie.

RELATIONSHIP: Joseph, The Man Mary Married

Erm . . . I became nervous when about five people told me they couldn't wait to read today's post. I wish I didn't mention it on Twitter that I was going to share insights from the love story of Joe and Mary. As at 4:00AM this morning, I didn't know how/what to write anymore. *scratches head* I am still trying to write . . .

Traits Of An Ideal Man (In Joseph) 

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During one of our discussions on TWTW (The Women at The Well) group initiated by Frances, we talked about this. The 9 of us have been studying love stories in the Bible and fetching out "rhema" from them. We are studying to revamp our minds on "the list" we have created about our life partners as we accept God’s own list for us in our hearts. We've been encouraging one another towards choosing carefully (on the basis of character). And it’s been so insightful and soul lifting.

10 Hearty Christmas Quotes

Oh la la la la! My heart sings in high soprano. Loving this season! Who doesn't feel Christmassy yet?

 Christmas Quotes

These are 10 joyous Christmas quotes to brighten the season and get you into the Christmas spirit.

When Christmas Brings Sad Memories

Christmas is a wonderful season but can also be a difficult season to cope with. For some people, it brings back sad and painful memories.

Don't Miss The Merry 

Two weeks ago, a family friend lost her dear son who was almost two years old. Just when there was so much hype and expectations building up for the amazing church's Christmas party, the baby boy died. I started to wonder how she would feel knowing her son wouldn't be there. 

STYLE: Denim On The Street

So I counted the number of WIW posts I have officially done already. This is the 15th. I'm happy about it. And I dunno why. :)

Street Style

All the while, I'd been showing you What I Wore when I'm on high heels. So I decided to do something different this time. No heels. No paparazzi. No ajebutter things.

PODCAST: Don't Get Carried Away This Christmas

It's that time of the year when you can easily be carried away -  buying Christmas presents, longing for the latest brands, attending parties/social events, seeking relationships that add no value, and all that stuff. You could get too materialistic and forget what really is more important.

Listen to "Who Is A Spiritual Man?"

Pronounce "Joseph" and "Moses"

The two lessons for today are almost like the battle we had with Mr. S and Mr. Zed here. It's time to take up our swords and fight again. Are you ready?!

Dating Is Not A Relationship

Hello sweeties! It's another Wednesday to talk about relationship things o. I personally need to read this article over and over again. I meet a guy today, and the next thing I'm thinking is "that could be my Mr. Man". It's high time I knew and believed this truth.

Dating Is Not A Relationship

Twice have I dated, and twice have I been heart broken. Why? Because I got it all twisted. So when I say dating is not a relationship, I know what I mean. This is something I’ve had to learn the hard way.

PHOTOS: This Guy Creates Cartoon Characters Out Of Balloons. Incredible!

Creativity turns me on! I saw these pictures and thought I should I should show you. I'm thrilled!

Characters out of Balloons

What My Christmas Wish List Looks Like

I'm soo excited. It's beginning to smell a lot like Christmas! *inhales* Hmmmm . . . that smell. That joy. That feeling. *exhales* Oh la la la la! Are you pondering what I'm pondering? 

Most Christmases I get gifts I don’t like or want or make wish lists of things I want but don’t need and have no place to store. So this year I made a list of things I actually want or need (and can’t afford). I am not asking for Christmas gifts from anyone, but if you feel led to get me something. Here are some ideas. ;)

My Wish list

At the beginning of the year, I made a list of things I planned to have, do, feel, experience and see before the end of the year. I've continually updated the list as I complete the items - by excitedly checking them off, hopefully waiting for some to pull through and adding new ones as the day goes by.

Here is a peep from my wish list:

STYLE: One Way To Tie A Scarf

Happy Sunday, sweeties! How are you all doing? Feeling good. Yeah? I don't want to say (or write) anything today. Let the pictures do the talking. :)

Some people have started tagging me with this style. I don't blame them at all. It's not their fault. Lol. I usually wrap my head in a scarf this way. 

For those who have been asking me. Oya, see pictures showing you how I do it below. Enjoy!

PODCAST: How Are You Living? (Repeat)

Hiya! Count down to 2016 has already started. Did anyone notice that the year had been running really fast?

Life is moving as fast too. If we don't stop and look around, we might miss our way. May we not miss our lives in the rush of unnecessary things.

"Dear Lord, teach us how to live. . ." Psalm 27:11

Rays of Life. . .

Stop Pronouncing "december" Wrongly

Ehen, I observe most people wrongly pronounce this word. I hope you're not one of them. *rme*

RELATIONSHIP: How To Overcome The Guilt of Sin (Fornication & Adultery)

Oh! The guilt. The shame. The memories keep replaying in your mind. You are almost frustrated. That feeling! It is good to feel bad for doing something wrong but you should never condemn yourself. Never.

No Condemnation

When I'm asked to describe the niche audience of my blog, I do not hesitate to say "Christian youths". I'm a Christian who blogs for Christians and soon-to-be Christians. Youths who have accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Saviour. And together we are walking towards knowing God better, living in total obedience and fulfilling purpose. Or aren't we? Of course. 

STOP. Be Still

Hellooooo, who is home?! I'm back oooo. Awww . . . My heart melted when I read all your comments in my previous post, and your emails? Oh my! Thank you so much for your love and support. Thank you for being a sweetheart. Thank you. God bless you richly!

 

Be Still

Mehn, you never know your heart as completely as God does.

I have a calm demeanor that can be almost visible even to the blind. But appearing calm is one thing, having a heart that is calm is another. I'd been wrestling with myself, or perhaps with God, for days now.

Is Your Battery Getting Low? Plug It In Now!

Hello beautiful sweethearts of mine! How are you doing today? Hmm . . . I'm feeling somehow somehow o. My phone decided to talk to me by acting really strange. I do hope you get something out of this looong article. 

Recharge Your Battery

We all know what to do when the battery of our phones, laptops, iPads, or any gadget becomes low. We plug it into a power source to get the battery recharged. Right?

But what do you if after you've plugged it in, the battery discharges instead of recharges? This is what the battery of my phone has led me to understand (through the help of the Holy Spirit).

STYLE: Black on Black + Meet My Cute Bro

Family is the most priceless possession. A blessing above every thing else. Family is always there for us regardless of what happens, and they are the most important people in our lives. Wondering why I'm talking about family? I'm being grateful. :)

WIW: Black on Black

Last Sunday was the grand finale of our family weekend. I already told you here that the weekend is set aside to appreciate and celebrate every member of the family.

PODCAST: Believe and Be Patient

It's the last Friday of the month. And you be like: "Another month has ended. Yet nothing to show for it!" 

Hey, relax. The year is not over yet, we still have 35 days to go. Don't stop believing. There is nothing impossible with God!

Rays of Hope . . .

Let's Play. How Many Faces Can You See?

Hi sweeties! I'm in some playful mood today. Kindly play with me. :)

How Many Faces Can You See In This Picture?

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Me, I'm seeing 10 faces o. What about you?

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Heart Rays . . .giving out  the light.

RELATIONSHIP: Is Phone Sex A Sin? (16+ Post)

I know. I know you have a different view on this topic, but hear me out first. OK? I must confess I've once had phone sex. I didn't know it was called 'phone sex' until recently tho. I'm such a jew girl. Or isn't that what they call people like me? Lol.

Phone Sex

You already know I talk about love and relationship every Wednesday. Right? Not as the world will but as Christ will let me. Not out of the blues but within my personal experience and discovery. I dunno how to blog without giving myself away (even when it hurts). I can't help it. Phew. 

How Last Weekend Went . . . Fantastic!

Mehn, last weekend was so much fun! It was one of those weekends I wish I could freeze. As in, I never wanted it to end. Lemme gist you . . .  :) 

Family Weekend

Yep! It was The RCCG's General Family Weekend nationwide. The family weekend is a weekend set aside to celebrate and appreciate every member of the family. It is also an avenue to bring members together in love and unity. 

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Write

Another week, another media amplified frenzy; great time to pen away my latest discovery unto the blogosphere. Great time to write it all out . . . where I'm at it again!

Writing Isn't Always Easy

This day has finally come.

The day I will confess that I don’t know what to write. 

I'm sitting at a table, staring at the blank screen and feeling so human. 

STYLE: The Pedestrian Bridge

Hi sweethearts! What's popping? Have you eaten your Sunday rice already? Yours truly have decided not to eat rice today. I want to eat beans. Yes, beans is so on my mind right now. Lol.

WIW on the Pedestrian Bridge

Ever since I officially started keeping a diary of my styles on Sundays, I have not missed a week. And I don't intend to. I was not actually in the mood to do today but I had to force myself. Wait! Am I self-disciplined or what? Hm!

PODCAST: How Do I Stop Thinking About My Ex?

Oh my, the number of emails I get these days is quite alarming. What is happening? Patience seems to be shown to the door (or probably thrown out of the window). Everybody wants a ready-made relationship from heaven. But that's not possible. We have to work it out!

Anyways, I decided to make a general reply to the question; "how do I stop thinking about my ex?"

Rays of Healing . . .

Let's Pronounce These Biblical Names - "Shadrach", "Jabez" and "Deborah"

Hiya! We're having WWA today! *smiles* Do you ever get to read the Bible aloud for others to hear? Me too. So it's very likely to have seen and pronounce these names - wrongly. 

We have three lessons today. Are you ready?!

RELATIONSHIP: When He says "Be Patient With Me"

(I wrote this article many weeks ago. It took me a while to make up my mind to click the 'publish' button.)

The other day, Mr. Man said to me; "Baby, I need you to be patient with me". I didn't understand. For the first in my life, the word "patient" became strange. "What does he mean by that??" "Huh??"

Be Patient With Love

If you've been following me for a while now, you’ll know that I am an open book. You can literally read me because I share from real life experience - my very own personal stories. That's the only way I feel like I'm connecting my Heart Rays with yours.

Book Review + Giveaway: 10 Steps To Walking In Purpose By Frances Okoro

Yay! Another giveaway post. Not just any kinda giveaway, it's a book. A book! You know I'm a bookworm. Yeah? Just in case you didn't know, read 7 Things About Me. Good inspirational books are the second next things that turn me on after the Bible. I have read so many books on how to fulfill purpose but this one is different. . . very different.

'10 Steps To Walking In Purpose' is the newest book written by my very own sweetheart - Barr. Frances Okoro. A powerful, interesting and unique book that I thoroughly enjoyed.

ABC Of Bloggers Who Rock My Blogosphere

A big shout out to everyone who has participated in the #GratitudeChallenge. God is sure smiling down at you right now. :)

I'm still filling my thanksgiving account. I'm grateful for being on the blogosphere. It is a blessing to have met you. Yes, you!

The (My) Blogosphere Is a Blessing

I've been blogging for more than a year now, and I can say blogging is a great way to meet people. Real life, like minded, interesting people.

STYLE/WIW: Recycling Till I Have Money

Hello sweethearts! How has the weekend been? I know, I know, we all don't want the weekend to end. Sure thing. It definitely cannot end without me ranting about What I Wore and all. *grins*

I love new clothes. I love the rush I get when I have something new to wear or just keep. Sometimes I crave for the rush but my bank account wouldn't co-operate. My bank account and I have been dragging this issue for a while now. 

As I was thinking about what to do; v-i-o-la! Recycling came to my rescue. 

PODCAST: Stay Away From Negative People

Some relationships clearly make you better. They energize, inspire, and lift you up. And there are others who almost want to suck the life out of you. When you identify them, stay away from them. 

Rays of Wisdom . . .

Free Ticket To "Fire Of Lafta With Tiblaze" Where Gordon, Koffi, Pencil & Others Will Be Performing Live. You Want?

Yipee! This is officially my first blog giveaway! I couldn't contain my joy when Tiblaze told me I could give out free tickets. *dancing* 

Sweeties, how would you like to win a ticket to go have fun at an event which features the best of comedy, fashion and music in a cosy and high class environment?  :) 

The night is sure to thrill with rib cracking comedy by ace comedians and music by the finest trending young artistes across Naija, while you also experience exclusive fashion displays by top Nigerian Fashion designers.

RELATIONSHIP: Listen To Your Partner

Listening is not just waiting for your turn to speak. Unfortunately, many of us act that way in our conversations - impatiently waiting instead of listening. Listening is hardwork. Let's talk about it today . . .

Active Listening

Listening may sound simple but there is more to it than it sounds. It is usually a major problem in relationships. As a matter of fact, it is easier to be an eloquent speaker (like me, yeah) than a good listener.

17 Quotes That Inspire You To Be Grateful

Need a little inspiration to get you into the thinksgiving mode? Here are some quotes that might help . . .

Thanksgiving Quotes

- 1- 

"If you made a list of all the things you could be thankful for, the list would undoubtedly be longer than your misfortunes."

~ Catherine Pulsifer

Lord, Please Forgive Me For Not Being Grateful Enough

My thanksgiving account is so in the red. I have not been as grateful as I'm expected to be. I am currently filling in my account.

Gratitude Challenge

Last weekend, I attended The RCCG Holy Ghost Service at The Redemption camp. That was where I was reminded of how ungrateful I had been to God. I was reminded three times.

WIW: Ankara Skirt and Bangles + Dear Diary, I Felt So Single There

Hello Sweeties! How is your weekend going? I've been attending weddings for three consecutive Saturdays now. And last weekend was one of those Saturdays. I do not only want to show you What I Wore, but also want to tell you how I had wished I was married. *bites lip* 

Bibian's wedding

Oh, I love weddings. I love the kisses. I love the cake, the decor, the music and the bridal dresses. I love the love in everything about weddings. It's ecstatic.

PODCAST: How to Find Peace Within

How can I find peace of mind? It’s a question often asked, but rarely answered in a satisfying way.

Some say peace of mind lies in security. Some say it’s about finding stillness and calm in life. Some say it’s about acceptance and letting go. Some even say it's about contentment. I say it’s being attuned with the Holy Spirit - who lives in you.

Rays of Peace. . .

Words With Amaka: damsel

Hello class! It's another day to learn how to pronounce correctly. I feel like an oral English teacher. Dah kinda thing. Lol. 

Today you'll discover that there are damsels and there are damsels. You may spot the difference. *grins* 

5 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

It's Love-Wednesday! It is important that we understand the impact of relationships in our lives. They either make us or break us. Let's consider these signs . . .

5 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

One thing I always say; being in a relationship is work. It can be more difficult if you’re not careful, because you could find yourself in the middle of a toxic wasteland that leads to nowhere but shameful stories and deep scars.

Dear Diary, Nothing Is Working!

Last night I poured out into my private diary. I'm led to share it with you. I hate to feel this way. 

PRIVATE DIARY
Monday, 2nd November 2015
~~Nothing is Working~~

My phone is sick. The battery refuses to be charged up.  My wi-fi router wouldn't come on. My mobile data plan expired this morning. I managed to go to the cyber café, and that's how the very system I was using stopped working. I logged on to another system, and that's how SoundCloud kept insisting that my password was incorrect. Phew! Even though I knew it was the right one. I tried other likely passwords. No way. I tried and tried and got tired. *tears*

At the 11th Hour

Let's not pretend. It is that time of the year when we tend to reflect on what we hoped to achieve and have not achieved yet. Sometimes it makes our hearts go weary, and even causes depression. But hey, I'm here to tell you - IT'S NOT OVER YET. 

The Eleventh Hour Miracle

Yesterday was January. . . and today is November. That's just how it seems. 

WIW: Ankara Shoes, Earrings and a Bow Tie

Like play like play . . . it is November! O-M-G!!! Happy New month, my super-awesome sweethearts! I was just looking over the past ten months, and I'm like "Mehn, 2015 has been a year of self-discovery." How about you?

It's another What-I-Wore post. Yipee!

WIW: Greeny Ankara Shoes and Bow tie

I've never worn green as many times as I did last month. Phew!
Wait, am I complaining? No.
Who forced me? Nobody.
So what am I now saying? Nothing.
Good. Lol.

PODCAST: What To Say To A Loved One Who Has Cancer

A comment on yesterday's post inspired today's Heart Rays. So your friend, colleague, aunt or sister has been diagnosed with cancer. What do you say to her?

Rays of Healing . . .

15 Inspiring Quotes To Raise Awareness on Breast Cancer And Give Hope To Those Battling With The Disease

In honour of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I’ve compiled these quotes to inspire, give hope and encourage those battling the disease. As well as to participate in the awareness campaign.

Inspirational Quotes For Breast Cancer Awareness

My This blog is centered towards living life filled with positivity, inspiration and love against all odds. Whether the difficulties lie ahead or behind us, we can find comfort, inspiration, strength and maybe even a few healing laughs from this lovingly compiled collection.

You can use and share them. Someone might need to read them. 

Make Your Relationship Work Through Dialogue and Negotiation

Relationships can always be improved when we make it work. I strongly believe it's always worth a try. Let's continue from where we stopped last week . . .

Resolving Issues in Your Relationship

I've already told you how to go about identifying what the issues are. You have communicated your feelings to yourself, and have identified what the real issues are. Now it's time to talk with your partner.

PHOTO: 6 Simple Steps To Have An Effective Quiet Time

Make it a lifestyle. Find a quiet place free from distraction, where you can be alone with God. And choose a particular time that is most suitable for you, be consistent with the same time everyday.

This is how I do. Presently, I use the Open Heavens Devotional Guide. You?

Jesus' Breast

The word "breast" has been appearing on me frequently for some days now. I guess it's because the month of October is stated to be the world's Breast Cancer Awareness month.

Lean on Jesus' Breast

I am so sure the title of this post got you wondering. Lol. Me too. I have not gotten over my latest discovery from the Bible. I'm awed by the revelation.

WIW: Green Jacket

Hi! What did you wear to church today? Share with us. Give us some tips from your style. On Sundays, it's about WIW! (Some people will be thinking I'm carnal now. Lol. Woreva!) 

Green Jacket

I am not sure whether I was wearing a blazer or a shirt. Lol. To be on a safe side, I have decided to call it a jacket. At least, that's the general description for any garment that has a front opening, collar, lapels, sleeves, and pockets.  :)

So yeah, I wore a green jacket over a black dress. I'm still into green like crazy. See pictures below . . .

Laugh, It's Weekend!

Feel the magic of a local joke. Lemme know if you laughed. 

LOL

A group of Nigerian husbands held a conference on "HOW TO HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR WIFE.' 

PODCAST: 4 Things I know About You

If we look closely, we humans are not entirely different from each other. If we genuinely reflect on our authenticity, we can know much more about others.

I know four things about you. Try me. If you don't see yourself this way, then you do not know who you are yet.

Rays of Truth . . .

Pronounce "cucumber"

What if we were to throw up every time we fail to pronounce some kinds of food correctly? Let's thank God the taste of food is not synonymous to how we pronounce them. Hehehe . . . 

Words With Amaka

Make Your Relationship Work Jhorr!

It's Wednesday! I want to talk about love and relationships. I don't play with matters of the heart. Permit me if I sound a little touchy.

Making Changes in a Relationship

Gone are the days when people mended things. We live in a disposable world right now. When it stops working, you throw it away. When you feel it's no longer useful, you show it to the door. "Aint nobody got time for that", some say.

STYLE: What a Night Gown!

(Lol. Please don't laugh at me. We talked about compliments yesterday. Remember?)

So I woke up. Looked into the mirror. And v-i-o-l-a! I got inspiration from what I was wearing. My green night gown!

Styles in an Epic Night Gown

A night gown is a gown that you wear at night. True or yes? Lol. I know that you know that I know that a night gown is a gown that you wear to sleep. It's usually a loose dress that you find comfortable to sleep in.

I slept in this dress. And seriously, I woke up like this.

Just Say "Thank You"

Happy New week, sweethearts! How are you doing? Please say "fine. Thank you." Lol. Following a previous post on 'giving compliments', I thought it cool to write about receiving compliments. It's another issue we need to tackle. 

Receiving Compliments

We all love to be noticed. OK, maybe you don't but I really do love to be noticed. Many people who are like me appreciate it when people admire us and compliment us. But few of us do not know how to accept these compliments gracefully. Instead, we downplay the compliments or even reject them.