When You Mean A Lot To Him
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Erm, I am NOT infallible, or an expert on dating – and I am DEFINITELY not the Holy Spirit. However, it is my desire is to see godly and healthy relationships blossom beautifully.
I am a sucker for relationships. I like to make it work (but not at the detriment of losing my head. Lol). I thought to share these tips with you.
So you’ve finally started dating a guy you actually like - he’s a real Christian, funny, charming, thoughtful, and you have no doubt he likes you back. Later, bad boys! This man who always return your calls, who never disappoints on a date, and who is always available starts acting the "baby, I am busy" superstar.
You might think something is wrong with you. Hold up! You are cool. There is NOTHING wrong with you. All you need to do is to determine if this guy is worth the chase or if that pit in your stomach is actually a red flag telling you to cut things off - fast.
I made a couple of research and ask a few questions. Here is how to know if you mean a lot to him (Wait, I don't mean your husband o, you are already stuck with him permanently. Hehehe . . . The "him" here is someone you are dating or being friends with. Okay?) :
He Keeps An Eye On You
When you’re out of his sight, he is going to worry for you a lot since you mean a lot to him. He is not going to go crazy on you and text you every five minutes asking you about your whereabouts. No. He will always want to be sure you’re okay. He trusts you and accepts the fact that you’re a grown up woman and you can look after yourself, but he will still want to make sure that you are okay.
He Doesn’t Remind You Of What He's Done For You
He will do his best and go out of the way to make you happy, yet you will never hear him telling it to you like you owe him something. You meant a lot to him and so does your happiness. He does these tiny things to show that you’re important to him – not to win favours in return.
He Treats You Like A Lady
I don't need to elaborate on this one. What would you be doing with some guy who doesn't treat you right in the first place? C'mon sweetie!
He Doesn't Assign Duties On You
When you mean a lot to him, he will not treat you like you are his servant. He will not just assume that you are supposed to do whatever he asks you to and when he asks to. He will respect the fact that you have a life of your own, and have got plans too.
Take a look at the bigger picture before getting your hopes up, but if he starts displaying more than two of these qualities, girl, you’ve got yourself a crush!
So guys, any more tips we should know about? Ladies, how often should a man call you in a day to show you that he cares? When a guy fights with you every 5 minutes, does it make you feel special?
Too many questions, I know. Let's discuss. :)
Written by Nwamaka Ajaegbu
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He Remembers What You Said
When you mean a lot to a guy, he will notice things about you that others don’t. He’ll recall a movie you mentioned liking and find a way to work it into the conversation. He’ll remember something funny you said and recall it with you later. He’ll know and acknowledge your birthday. (A word of caution, however; if he starts bringing up things you know you’ve never told him, that's a deal-breaker.)
When you mean a lot to a guy, he will notice things about you that others don’t. He’ll recall a movie you mentioned liking and find a way to work it into the conversation. He’ll remember something funny you said and recall it with you later. He’ll know and acknowledge your birthday. (A word of caution, however; if he starts bringing up things you know you’ve never told him, that's a deal-breaker.)
A guy who’s a player or that is up to no good is going to have trouble with a few of these points. You can tell when a man cares about you. It will be so obvious. Men are really black and white. Women like to complicate things. *bites lip*
Take a look at the bigger picture before getting your hopes up, but if he starts displaying more than two of these qualities, girl, you’ve got yourself a crush!
So guys, any more tips we should know about? Ladies, how often should a man call you in a day to show you that he cares? When a guy fights with you every 5 minutes, does it make you feel special?
Too many questions, I know. Let's discuss. :)
Written by Nwamaka Ajaegbu
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